Matt,
Sorry this happened, get used to people lying, cheating and stealing for their benefit (or myriad other reasons). Because you don't do those things, I know it is a bit weird at first.
Some people here did not give you any advice, or kinda condescended you, get used to that as well as there are several dooshbags who know everything and place themselves before others on this forum etc. It is in the nature of some to put others down to make themselves feel better, for a bit.
Thankfully, there are more folks who tried to lend a hand and helped you!
You did nothing wrong, others did.
I bet you find a better 'Tec than the one that got away, eventually, so as Watson pointed out, you probably are the winner here!
A big part of this hobby is learning patience...as well as who to buy from.
Hope to see you all at the next Boston show (where I may get in as the promotors learned from the last one)!