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[Math Teacher]

I contacted a dealer about two books on Sunday night. He replied, stating that he would look at my offer at the end of the day on Monday. On Tuesday, I contacted the same dealer, and got the same response. When I got home from work today, I still have not gotten a response.

To be honest, I don't want to keep pestering him, but I do want him to respond to my offer. I'm afraid that continuing to pester him will lead to him becoming angry, and rejecting my offer out of hand.

Does anyone have a suggestion about how to deal with this? Thanks!

[Cat]

Busy time of year, give him a few more days before contacting him again, say if you haven't heard from him by next Monday, perhaps? 

[THE_BEYONDER]

[kav]

On 12/1/2021 at 6:46 PM, Math Teacher said:

I contacted a dealer about two books on Sunday night. He replied, stating that he would look at my offer at the end of the day on Monday. On Tuesday, I contacted the same dealer, and got the same response. When I got home from work today, I still have not gotten a response.

To be honest, I don't want to keep pestering him, but I do want him to respond to my offer. I'm afraid that continuing to pester him will lead to him becoming angry, and rejecting my offer out of hand.

Does anyone have a suggestion about how to deal with this? Thanks!

leave him alone.  you keep bugging him and he'll raise the price.  you will seem desperate.

[Randall Dowling]

I think these guys have it all wrong.  I think you should get more aggressive than before.  Start implying things about his family.  Cast aspersions on the quality of his inventory.  Neg the hell out of him!  

And when he comes back as either equally angry or aloof, ask him "Why do you seem so angry?"  No matter how he responds, repeat step one and keep on cycling through until he breaks and gives you the deal you want.  Then praise him.

Edited December 2, 2021 by Randall Dowling
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[Turnando]

I'd walk away from it.  If he responds later this week I'd ignore it.

He's already broken a few commitments.  Small ones, yes, but a flake is a flake and that dude is a flake.  Flakes are the people whose problems become your problems.

[kav]

On 12/1/2021 at 8:59 PM, Turnando said:

I'd walk away from it.  If he responds later this week I'd ignore it.

He's already broken a few commitments.  Small ones, yes, but a flake is a flake and that dude is a flake.  Flakes are the people whose problems become your problems.

Thats what I'd do.  I used to do the same with girls playing hard to get.
You missed your window-not interested any more.

[CHASEnBLUE]

On 12/1/2021 at 9:07 PM, kav said:

Thats what I'd do.  I used to do the same with girls playing hard to get.
You missed your window-not interested any more.

Now THAT is funny!

C'mon man...we know they hold alllllll the power. 

[kav]

On 12/1/2021 at 9:25 PM, CHASEnBLUE said:

Now THAT is funny!

C'mon man...we know they hold alllllll the power. 

I found you jerk the power away when you dismiss them permanently after they try their hijinx.  They get desperate but its TOO LATE.

[kav]

I have stories.

[CHASEnBLUE]

On 12/1/2021 at 9:28 PM, kav said:

I have stories.

I love it....

I can think of a few times where there were many choices and a similar strategy played out well. But if its slim pickin's...probably not the best go-to tactic.

Of course, I always seemed to get the psycho stalkers - I have stories too! 

 

[MattTheDuck]

To drag this back on topic - this past weekend was a busy one with Black Friday and Cyber Monday.  I'd suggest giving him some leeway to get back to you, unless the books aren't really important.

[Buzzetta]

On 12/1/2021 at 9:46 PM, Math Teacher said:

I contacted a dealer about two books on Sunday night. He replied, stating that he would look at my offer at the end of the day on Monday. On Tuesday, I contacted the same dealer, and got the same response. When I got home from work today, I still have not gotten a response.

To be honest, I don't want to keep pestering him, but I do want him to respond to my offer. I'm afraid that continuing to pester him will lead to him becoming angry, and rejecting my offer out of hand.

Does anyone have a suggestion about how to deal with this? Thanks!

At this point, if you see the book at a better price elsewhere you should grab it without any feelings of guilt.

• You inquired.
• You were told Monday
• Monday came and went.
• You contacted again
• You were told to wait.
• You contacted again 
• No response.

My questions to you:

1. How many other samples of that book have sold across the internet since you first inquired?
2. How many of those other sales might you have considered purchasing if you were not waiting PAST the originally agreed amount of time? 

If something comes up, grab it at this point.  If they get back to you then say that you waited but since there was no response, you moved forward with another opportunity. 

 

As Matt said, they might be tied down with Black Friday and Cyber Monday and other orders.  However, you cannot be certain of that.  You checked three times.  You tried.  Don't be rude, or dismissive, (not saying you are) but this is strictly a business decision that you are making.   If they were to get back to you, you were ready to commit.  So basically your money is tied up here.   How much longer are you willing to tie up your money?

Edited December 2, 2021 by Buzzetta

[kav]

On 12/1/2021 at 9:51 PM, Buzzetta said:

At this point, if you see the book at a better price elsewhere you should grab it without any feelings of guilt.

• You inquired.
• You were told Monday
• Monday came and went.
• You contacted again
• You were told to wait.
• You contacted again 
• No response.

My questions to you:

1. How many other samples of that book have sold across the internet since you first inquired?
2. How many of those other sales might you have considered purchasing if you were not waiting PAST the originally agreed amount of time? 

If something comes up, grab it at this point.  If they get back to you then say that you waited but since there was no response, you moved forward with another opportunity. 

 

As Matt said, they might be tied down with Black Friday and Cyber Monday and other orders.  However, you cannot be certain of that.  You checked three times.  You tried.  Don't be rude, or dismissive, (not saying you are) but this is strictly a business decision that you are making.   If they were to get back to you, you were ready to commit.  So basically your money is tied up here.   How much longer are you willing to tie up your money?

he could tell him his brother is a vet-

[Cat]

On 12/2/2021 at 3:55 PM, kav said:

he could tell him his brother is a vet-

That'll show him. 'I deal with cats and budgies all day, mate. I'm bigger than you'll ever hope to be!' 

[mattn792]

On 12/1/2021 at 10:55 PM, Randall Dowling said:

I think these guys have it all wrong.  I think you should get more aggressive than before.  Start implying things about his family.  Cast aspersions on the quality of his inventory.  Neg the hell out of him!  

And when he comes back as either equally angry or aloof, ask him "Why do you seem so angry?"  No matter how he responds, repeat step one and keep on cycling through until he breaks and gives you the deal you want.  Then praise him.

Don't forget to nominate said dealer for the Hall of Shame if he refuses to cave to your demands, thus "interfering with your business".

[Ride the Tiger]

Find out where this dealer lives. Sneak into their home and toast all their bread. Then you wait.

[THE_BEYONDER]

On 12/2/2021 at 7:03 AM, Ride the Tiger said:

Find out where this dealer lives. Sneak into their home and toast all their bread. Then you wait.

It was YOU that toasted all my bread

[Ride the Tiger]

On 12/2/2021 at 6:19 AM, THE_BEYONDER said:

It was YOU that toasted all my bread

If you would have come down a bit on that Dazzler #1 there would have been no toast.

[comicginger1789]

I'm sorry but is this really a thread? Are you really asking if you should exercise patience or continue to nag the person?

Perspective...any seller, be it someone who runs a business or someone like me who sells books to fund my collection, is living life. I have kids, a job and lots of other things that in reality, take precedence over comics. Sometimes I am able to reply instantly to requests or inquiries about books. Sometimes I see the request, say "hey I will get back tomorrow" and then tomorrow starts with an unplanned work meeting, followed by getting home to find the kids had a rough day and my wife deserves a break so rather than tend to comics for second, I handle the kids, then make supper then am beat and just wanna relax after they are in bed by watching some television with my wife. So that "hey I will get back to you tomorrow" is now another day. I think sometimes buyers (for whatever reason), think that a delayed response is on purpose....it's not. It's like reading a text message. People read text messages (and even messages here) with whatever tone THEY believe. Don't ever do that because you will always create drama and concern and problems that don't actually exist. 

I try my hardest to not leave people hanging for multiple days but reality is, if this person is like me (or even someone running a business, especially one where on top of managing the online world, they are also managing a store or shop) I can imagine your message getting pushed aside in favour of people actually visiting the shop. Remember, you may be a legit potential buyer online but guarantee this seller has had hundreds of "hey I'm interested" messages that go nowhere. And again, if they only sell online, well it is likely a very busy time of year.

In conclusion, you have sent two messages. Give him a few days. Send another message on Monday or over the weekend, stressing it as a friendly reminder of your interest and how you want the book. And if it's not meant to be, move along and continue the hunt.