You know she's a keeper when...

[joe_collector]

Anybody in here actually have a girlfriend or spouse who is into comics as much as you are?

 

Nope, and I really wouldn't want her to be.

[joe_collector]

As for the Playboy... she was the one that suggested it and she was going to pay for it, but I paid instead.

 

Anyone else getting flashbacks to Ross on Friends?

[Illiterati-migration]

Man... I thought I had been burned in the past. You people are as bitter and pesimistic as they come. Not every girl is out there to destroy a man life you know. Some actually DO accept what their S.O. do.

 

It's not that. It's going into the relationships thinking everything is peaches and cream. Don't base your attraction to your fiance based on the things she lets you do or she does with you. Those that are married can attest the things she accepts and does with you will change after marriage. My brother's wife would go fishing with him before they got married, but she does not now. It doesn't mean that is bad, but if my brother were counting on a fishing partner, they would have trouble. I am just saying down the road, it may change or she may have something she likes very much and you may not accept it. Apart from financial problems, one of the big problems in marriage is unrealistic expectations or unsaid expectations.

 

Your fiance seems to have a level head as she would like money put towards a house than a wedding. That is good. However, you mentioned her troubled past and I would be weary of getting into a situation in which she could be more inclined to get out of a bad situation than get into a good situation. One of the biggest mistakes men do is try to rescue women. I have seen it and experienced it. It does not work. As other have said, it is odd about some of the things she accepts. You may have the one in a million. Of course, everybody who gets married thinks that, but we still have a divorce rate over 50%. It would be red flag for me.

 

Holy Christ, you'd think with your degree in Amateur Psychology you could diagnose yourself.

 

Let the guy be happy. If he needs a shoulder later, then so be it. But for now, zip up... or maybe just go [!@#%^&^] in someone else's cereal for a while.

[joe_collector]

Let the guy be happy. If he needs a shoulder later, then so be it. But for now, zip up... or maybe just go [!@#%^&^] in someone else's cereal for a while.

 

I agree. Take a few light-hearted jabs if you want (that's the male condition), but let's leave the heavy stuff out.

[Apotheosis]

Apart from financial problems, one of the big problems in marriage is unrealistic expectations or unsaid expectations.

 

I'm very mindful of that kind of thing. I've paid attention to both my brothers marriage (over 10 years with the girl he started dating when he was 15) and my parents (33 years strong). I'm well aware of things that change after marriage and the sacrifices that need to be made. Alot of things, though, come down to both sides having level and realistic heads. The priorities are in order. She ALWAYS comes first. Then the dogs. Then the house. Then the cars... comics, poker, and fun stuff are down the list. I'm also at a point where ending comic buying wouldn't cause all that much disappointment in life. I agree with you that most people are unrealistic... I'm trying to go in with no preconceptions. It's just that my fiance makes me feel as comfortable as I can with my current choices.

 

However, you mentioned her troubled past and I would be weary of getting into a situation in which she could be more inclined to get out of a bad situation than get into a good situation. One of the biggest mistakes men do is try to rescue women. I have seen it and experienced it. It does not work.

 

It's not a recue thing. It's a matter of me treating her the way I treat all women. If it makes her life better great. She's already pulled herself up from where she was. She was independent when I met her and she's got the confidence that she can always do it again. I'm just here to make her happy in different ways.

 

As other have said, it is odd about some of the things she accepts. You may have the one in a million. Of course, everybody who gets married thinks that, but we still have a divorce rate over 50%. It would be red flag for me.

 

It is odd what she accepts, but I can't argue with it. I think alot of it has to do with her relationship with her brother. His marriage is a happy one and alot of it comes down to his wife's acceptance of things he wants and likes and vice versa. Watching that has put a good head on her. Who knows... everyone here could be right and things might change after the wedding, but always looking at "what if" can only ruin "what is". Changes get dealt with when they happen... not when they're still in the hypothetical stage.

 

And just think... if things don't change... I'll be the luckiest guy around

[Apotheosis]

Let the guy be happy. If he needs a shoulder later, then so be it. But for now, zip up... or maybe just go [!@#%^&^] in someone else's cereal for a while.

 

I agree. Take a few light-hearted jabs if you want (that's the male condition), but let's leave the heavy stuff out.

 

positive words from JC in my favor... I think I'm having a heart attack..

 

Just kidding... thanks for the good thoughts

[Illiterati-migration]

And just think... if things don't change... I'll be the luckiest guy around

 

[FFB]

Those that are married can attest the things she accepts and does with you will change after marriage.

 

Before marriage, 3-somes with her friends were allowed... now that we're married, her friends are off-limits

 

Marriage changes that??

 

[FFB]

It is odd what she accepts, but I can't argue with it. I think alot of it has to do with her relationship with her brother. His marriage is a happy one and alot of it comes down to his wife's acceptance of things he wants and likes and vice versa. Watching that has put a good head on her. Who knows... everyone here could be right and things might change after the wedding, but always looking at "what if" can only ruin "what is". Changes get dealt with when they happen... not when they're still in the hypothetical stage.

 

And just think... if things don't change... I'll be the luckiest guy around

 

Sorry pal, but she is going to screw you over bigtime! She probably already has a stash of charcoal in the back shed just waiting for your comics on the first post-nuptial day that you step out of line. You are doomed! DOOOOOOOMED!!!!

 

Heh. Just channeling UnrulyAppendage there for a second. The moment is past. Carry on with your bliss.

[The Brain]

It is odd what she accepts, but I can't argue with it. I think alot of it has to do with her relationship with her brother. His marriage is a happy one and alot of it comes down to his wife's acceptance of things he wants and likes and vice versa. Watching that has put a good head on her. Who knows... everyone here could be right and things might change after the wedding, but always looking at "what if" can only ruin "what is". Changes get dealt with when they happen... not when they're still in the hypothetical stage.

 

And just think... if things don't change... I'll be the luckiest guy around

 

Sorry pal, but she is going to screw you over bigtime! She probably already has a stash of charcoal in the back shed just waiting for your comics on the first post-nuptial day that you step out of line. You are doomed! DOOOOOOOMED!!!!

 

Heh. Just channeling UnrulyAppendage there for a second. The moment is past. Carry on with your bliss.

l

 

[BradleyX2]

Those that are married can attest the things she accepts and does with you will change after marriage.

 

 

As Leonard Nimoy once sang..

 

"Girl meets boy, they fall in love

She tells him he's everything she's dreamed of

But when they get married, before he's aware

She changes his habits, the way he combs his hair

She changes him to someone he's never been

And then complains he's not like other men

 

Now I find that most illogical"

[BradleyX2]

BTW, Brad, congratulations on your soon-to-be wedding, and I wish you two all the happiness in the world.

 

~the other Brad (wait- I guess that would actually be redhook)

 

~the OTHER other Brad

[PovertyRow]

Those that are married can attest the things she accepts and does with you will change after marriage.

 

 

As Leonard Nimoy once sang..

 

"Girl meets boy, they fall in love

She tells him he's everything she's dreamed of

But when they get married, before he's aware

She changes his habits, the way he combs his hair

She changes him to someone he's never been

And then complains he's not like other men

 

Now I find that most illogical"

 

As JAck Webb once sang (well, kind of)

 

"Oh, she may be weary

Young girls they do get weary.

Wearing that same old

shabby dress."

 

Am ordering my copy now!

[The Brain]

Those that are married can attest the things she accepts and does with you will change after marriage.

 

 

As Leonard Nimoy once sang..

 

"Girl meets boy, they fall in love

She tells him he's everything she's dreamed of

But when they get married, before he's aware

She changes his habits, the way he combs his hair

She changes him to someone he's never been

And then complains he's not like other men

 

Now I find that most illogical"

 

As JAck Webb once sang (well, kind of)

 

"Oh, she may be weary

Young girls they do get weary.

Wearing that same old

shabby dress."

 

Am ordering my copy now!

 

THIS HAS BEEN A MARK VII PRODUCTION

[PovertyRow]

THIS HAS BEEN A MARK VII PRODUCTION

 

[UnrulyAppendage]

Heh. Just channeling UnrulyAppendage there for a second. The moment is past. Carry on with your bliss.

 

Actually, I was channeling JC if he were a pre-marriage counselor.

 

Imagine if he were a sex therapist

 

Patient: I used to satisfy my GF three or four times a night. Now that we have been married for a while, it's down to maybe three or four times a month and I even have trouble sometimes. It used to be good, but now it isn't.

 

JC therapist: You are finally seeing the crash. You are now seeing the results of your fanboy fanaticism over sex. You can take viagra for the short term, but it will only delay the inevitable. Once that wedding cake has been eaten, it's over.

 

HA HA HA

[drbanner]

Apoth,

 

You are making the fatal assumption most guys do.........

 

When your girlfriend stops being your fiancee and becomes your wife, all bets are off. Enjoy your fun now, and don't come whining to us later and say we didn't warn you!

 

 

You are wise beyond your years...and that's sayin' sumpin!

[Ze-man]

Ouch.. that is scary.

Very prophetic Brad.

 

Wise indeed.

Ze-