Apology

[ChrisInBaltimore]

As I'd guess is true for a lot of folks here, I've spent a lot participating in online communities. This forum is the first comic community I've engaged with online, in large part because I left the hobby for many years, only to return about 8 months ago.

 

When I approached this community, I intentionally took it easy. People can get very enthusiastic when they find a group of like-minded people with whom they can share their passion and can get overly zealous, be that with posting in quantity, brushing up against long time community members, or just being opinionated.

 

Regardless, my take is that new users have to respect the existing community, learn its norms, sniff out who the quality members are, who the long-term and well-respected members are, and who the trenchantly combative folks are.

 

It's also a matter of time and letting yourself organically become part of a group through participation. And a matter of staying out of dogfights. And not letting your ego get the best of you. And respecting other people's opinions, knowing when to bow out of a conversation, and keeping in mind that, for me at least, I'm here to increase my happiness in regards to a hobby I love and was absent from for too long.

 

On the other hand, I feel that long-time members should be glad to have new members coming along so that the community can stay fresh, grow, have new ideas, and continue to thrive. If it's insular and exclusive, it quickly becomes stagnant.

 

Be patient with folks who haven't seen the ten other threads on a topic. It's still interesting for some people who missed the boat two months earlier, and they can still have a worthwhile or engaging conversation.

 

Just like individuals are defined by actions, so are groups. Some people are azzhats. Myself, I don't think that turning the flame spigot back on those people does anything for a community. It's just one person being a jerk being met by a group of people who aren't much better when they are crucifying that jerk. Why not just disengage from the conversation, ignore it, and walk away?

 

I've sat at all levels on a forum, one with hundreds of daily active users and thousands of monthly users. I've had to moderate, administrate, but more than anything participate. And that participation happens with other people. Maybe this sounds all gooey-ooey starry eyed, and I apologize if it comes across as preachy, but those are my thoughts on all this.

 

By the way, I've read part of this thread and scanned the rest. Did anyone tell the guy, "Thanks, appreciated, it all sort itself out" or that sort of thing?

 

 

Noob of the year award.

 

Oak, get 'im his trophy!

 

Hey where was my award last year?

 

 

Beerbong was supposed to mail it out to you.

 

[mikenyc]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

[*Bronze age fan*]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

 

 

 

Sufunk FDQ exit. Epic.

[Gotham Kid]

[Ogami]

I just wish you guys had it in your hearts to forgive Beige like some of the dealers on the boards have.

[*Bronze age fan*]

I just wish you guys had it in your hearts to forgive Beige like some of the dealers on the boards have.

 

 

Guy has and spends a lot of money. Your post is so funny on so many levels.

[seanfingh]

I just wish you guys had it in your hearts to forgive Beige like some of the dealers on the boards have.

 

[comix4fun]

I just wish you guys had it in your hearts to forgive Beige like some of the dealers on the boards have.

 

 

[ChrisInBaltimore]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

 

Wait: Beige and Andy70 are one in the same? How did I miss that…

[Gotham Kid]

Name change to leave the stink behind. Problem is ... stink followed.

[Jeffro.]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

 

Wait: Beige and Andy70 are one in the same? How did I miss that…

 

[B-Smooth]

If I was debating someone in a forum and other people joined my assault I would immediately bow out so as not to be a bully,

 

There was a boardie who once seduced another boardie's wife. There was once a boardie who threatened in a PM to another boardie to "put a bullet in his skull"

 

No bullying in those cases. Those scumbags deserved every bit of pile on they earned

Seduced his wife? Wow, ones collection must have been bigger than the others.

[Gotham Kid]

 

@Paper Airplane's sig

 

[Jimmy Linguini]

[GLCBrad]

I finally read this thread this morning:

 

1) Beige's apology is like an Andy Kaufman routine- there's no way he's serious

 

2) only noobs that spout stupidity get flamed

 

3) kav is definitely a shill

 

 

[comix4fun]

It's perfectly possible that he just forgot to edit his signature. If he really has had his account suspended then he wouldn't be able to log back in and change it.

 

This

 

 

Except his account isn't suspended. He's still here. He's read this thread. He's PMing with boardies. His sig line, as of right now is still the same insulting line.

[Balham's Finest]

It's perfectly possible that he just forgot to edit his signature. If he really has had his account suspended then he wouldn't be able to log back in and change it.

 

Except for the fact that he just got reinstated from a strike, just included that slam on oak in his sig line, just before his heartfelt apology.

 

Th entire time he was drafting that ban-avoiding apology he could have adjusted his newly formed insult sig line. He didn't.

 

Signs. They are everywhere.

 

Ah, OK. I just assumed it was there before he got his last strike (I have sigs turned off).

[paperheart]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

 

 

 

Sufunk FDQ exit. Epic.

 

which time?

[*Bronze age fan*]

But I guess this isn't the place for the discussion. I'm going to take Beige on face value and give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

I took Beige at face value long ago..., and wrote him off.

 

 

I had this clown on ignore when he was Andy70.

 

Also, I haven't seen a FDQ exit this Liberaceish since sufunk.

 

 

 

Sufunk FDQ exit. Epic.

 

which time?

 

 

All of them. But I enjoyed the I cracked a 9.2 Avengers #4 and had it pressed and regarded and it came back lower so I am quitting the hobby the best.

[comix4fun]

It's perfectly possible that he just forgot to edit his signature. If he really has had his account suspended then he wouldn't be able to log back in and change it.

 

Except for the fact that he just got reinstated from a strike, just included that slam on oak in his sig line, just before his heartfelt apology.

 

Th entire time he was drafting that ban-avoiding apology he could have adjusted his newly formed insult sig line. He didn't.

 

Signs. They are everywhere.

 

Ah, OK. I just assumed it was there before he got his last strike (I have sigs turned off).

 

A few people mentioned only seeing it since he got back.

 

Taking that out of the equation, and even if it predated the original strike he's come back from, since he is reading this thread, and has undoubtedly seen the concerns over the insulting sigline, he has done nothing to change it as of now.