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Wow, it’s been almost a year.  Throwing up a wellness check post.  Where for art thou, Gabe?

@uchiha101

6 minutes ago, Buzzetta said:

Follow me around for a day.  I will show you very busy.  I find the time to list a few here and a few there.  Once it is listed, it is up until I pull it down.  It does not take much effort to box something up when it sells.  Last year, eBay basically paid for my complete bath remodel.   Some people like to sleep while they are on their hour commute into Manhattan.  I wanted to pay for my bathroom. 

Here’s something to keep in mind though - if I want to get a book in front of buyers at cons across the country, I NEED to consign it.  I’m not a dealer, I don’t have booths, and I don’t travel to shows.  So I’ll happily pay the 10% for maximum exposure.

Now, could I put that book on eBay?  Sure.  If I want to pay more fees, get less eyes, and risk someone trying to scam me.

Sell it yourself is not always the best option.

1 minute ago, Buzzetta said:

Not really... I see it all the time. 

I experienced it again after a dealer reached out to buy everything that I was offering in a listing. 

He told me what his bottom line was and what his best offer was. 

Since I declined, I already sold some of the items equating to what his offer was on my own and have plenty left over to make more.

I would never sell to a dealer at this point.  Not while my fingers and eyes work in order to operate a computer. 

Of course a dealer is going to offer a lower price, they need to make money to stay in business.  But consigning and selling are two different things; you’re original post seems to intermingle the two.

2 hours ago, Buzzetta said:

Because some people are lazy.

I say it all the time.  Why do ANY of you consign with a dealer?  Why do ANY of you sell or trade your books to a dealer? 

You don't want to deal with it and you want instant money.

Sell your own stuff. 

 

 

This viewpoint is way too simplistic.

More power to him if it works, but you have to wonder why a person would consign to a seller just for that seller to put their stuff on eBay?  13% off the top to eBay/PayPal fees, another 10% as commission, however much for shipping to the buyer...the consignor ends up with about 75ish% of the final price.  Better off cutting out the consignee and opening your own eBay account.

A good consignee is bringing something to the table that you can't accomplish on your own.  Generally with comics, I look for better transaction security, better access to a wide network of buyers, and a better chance at realizing top dollar in the sale price.  Neither Gabe nor eBay offers any of those.

Too many attempts to shortcut his way to success.  Time to land a 9 to 5.

Jedi robe master... 

@uchiha101 - what’s new?

4 minutes ago, Hollywood1892 said:

I dont know how to respond to this.

I'll try...

You cant have a healthy relationship with someone if your always trying to prove it to other people.

God isnt a test...

This, Gabe. 

Are you planning to drive or fly?

29 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

I've been doing these things since I've realized I've fallen for her. I thought she was too good to be true so I checked her out. 

 

Here are the things that check out with her.

Her email address

Her address where she lives.

The places she told me she used to live all check out

Her MNF account and password

The fact that she's always been honest with me

 

Here are things that I have yet to check out aside from What God told me as well as her sister, friends

How she looks like

What she sounds like

Her unique eyes

That she has a sister

That she has powers as well as her sister

Its good you've been doing some sleuthing, and hopefully you check off the most important ones soon.  Just keep a sense of wariness too, a lot of those things you've checked out so far are also the easiest to fake.  I'd also argue that you don't really know if she's always been honest with you because at this juncture you really don't know who you are actually dealing with.  

Keep at it.

14 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Not that I can find.

Well that is good you know that.

Question - were you doing these things prior to the recent dust up in here, or did you just start?  Because if you had done these in advance and shared that info, it probably would've saved you a bunch of unnecessary grief.

Anyway, its good you've done some background work, just keep at it.  As for the whole super power thing, I don't think you're going to convince anyone here of that.  But I think we've been focusing too much on the internet predator angle and discounting the possibility that you're just communicating with someone who is insecure about who she is, and is doing her best to keep you impressed.

11 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Yes I did

Anything weird pop in the results?

5 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Kinda both? I checked her IP address and it's within the same block of where she lives. 

That's a positive sign.  You Google the address too?

7 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

I'm not a video chatter either. But I'll make that suggestion to her.

Right on.

Next question -- you said you verified the address she gave. Verified as in she lives there, or simply that the address exists?

1 minute ago, uchiha101 said:

Because Skype sucks. I don't really know any other more secure platforms and that aren't glitchy or very buggy. Got suggestions?

I'm not a video chatter myself, but a couple people I know use Facebook for international video chats.

Just now, uchiha101 said:

For the time being yes

Gotcha.  Why not use a different video chat platform then?  Discord certainly isn't the only one. 

5 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

The relevance is that it's annoying me. It's always something that seems to come between us, if it's not on my end it's on hers. It makes me angrier at myself for not taking up her many offers of video chatting on Discord when I had the chance.

So if I'm understanding this correctly, it rendered her Discord account unusable?  

2 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Well simply put I told her that if I were to leave MNF I want to have her on discord because previously, MNF was the only  place I can speak with her. I spoke to Sam's sister and got Sam's discord account info. I know it's been hacked because I got the alert as it was happening.

OK, but what's the relevance of the hacking?  Did it almost throw some kind of wrench into your situation?

6 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Ok then, let me add more detail. It's still a lot of faith but I did look her up, the address she gave me checks out, I looked up her IP address, I have access to her MNF account, she's never lied to me. 

I also asked her about sending me a few pics of her and she said yes, she said she's happy to show me her powers when I will visit her. I asked about Discord and she said it's been hacked which I know is true. 

For the pics she said she would take off her sunglasses for it. 

 

 

What's the backstory on the Discord thing?

1 minute ago, uchiha101 said:

I don't have a superiority complex. I can say the same for you boardies, most anyway, always thinking you're right. My conversations with them are different but I don't really bother talking to them anymore because no matter what I would say they didn't care much. It didn't matter what the subject at hand was either. 

Fair enough, family dynamics can certainly be weird.

That aside, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be right, but in your Sam situation you're operating on almost total blind faith.  A lot of your answers tend to be "because Sam told me" or "because God told me".  I haven't once seen something like "well I looked up her name on mylife and it confirmed the age and residence that she told me".  At least that would be some type of background work on your part.  Add in all the wife talk and your absurd excuses as to why the two of you have never video chatted (she works too much, you need several hours to look your best), and you can see why I have posited that part of you is afraid that this is not real.

Keep in mind too -- you aren't talking about meeting a girl in the next town over.  This is a significant financial expenditure for you to cross an international border to meet someone you've never even seen, and in reality know nothing about beyond what you've been told and have been willing to accept on blind faith.  Granted you're only going to the US and not Syria, but you met this person on MNFclub.  Is it possible a predator was in there looking to impart some influence on disillusioned individuals?  And the whole super power talk?  You're a comic fan, what better way to appeal to you?  

As of now you're flying totally blind Gabe.  Is it any wonder that a lot of us are worried about you?

1 hour ago, uchiha101 said:

Yes my family and I don't see eye to eye. I can't even talk to them about just reselling stuff or anything that makes me happy because they don't care. I've tried speaking to my brother about this before and it didn't go well. Everyone else is too far away. My grandma speaks very little English and there's a language barrier quite often. Those that would have understood are already dead.

 

 

Here's a follow-up question -- how did you approach these conversations you've had with them?  Were you open minded and willing to listen to potentially constructive criticism, or did you bring the same superiority complex like you often do here (e.g. I know better than everyone)?  Because the close minded approach is almost universally met with eye rolling, no matter the topic of conversation.  Just something to reflect on.

17 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Are you actually agreeing to what I've said or humoring me?

I'm not agreeing, I'm just saying I'll take your word that you've received some hate from other board members.  And my counterpoint is screw them, you need to look out for you.  Ultimately, the only person any of us can rely on is ourselves.  You're not acting in your own best interest right now, and you need to start immediately.

1 minute ago, uchiha101 said:

Like I said yesterday, some people here are very two faced, wishing me luck and all the best but as soon as I turn my back they insult everything they previously stood up for. One example is Samantha. I've had many people say they hope it's real yet in pm's tell me I don't deserve an amazing girl like that if it turns out she is real. Why do I get a girl like that even though my life is so terrible. 

 

You think I enjoy such people? I rather have them come out and say it instead of acting buddy buddy. Not everyone wants me to succeed or wish me the best in life here. Facts. 

I'll take this as true on its face.  So then the follow-up is simple -- All others aside, YOU should not want to see yourself get hurt and do everything possible to protect against that.

2 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Well believe it or not. I do analyze people. They're not the type to do this. I've been wrong before but too much has happened for me to say otherwise. Besides, why does it matter what happens anyway? From the boardies perspective it would just be one less crazy person in the world which will puff up most of their already dangerously overblown ego's

Analyzing people you've never met or seen, I'm sure that'll be accurate.  You haven't done anything but take someone's word for who they are, which can be incredibly dangerous.

And no one here wants to see you get hurt, emotionally or physically.  Why do you think folks keep imploring you to collect some actual facts, and verify who you're really talking to via a simple webchat?  

Stop being afraid that your fantasy world isn't real, because it isn't.  The sooner you get to the bottom of everything and return to reality, the better for you.