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Keeping the ladies at bay...

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shadow2026

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No offense to any female collectors out there, I love you all!

 

But how do you guys keep your non-collector wives/girlfriends at bay. I know mine takes every opportunity to make a crack about me collecting comics, or getting upset because I spend money on them, although I have as of yet to spend much. Her favorite line: "If you want something to read I'll buy you books for 50 cents at yard sales!". My standard reply: "Do you know Action Comics #1 in high grade can get up to $300,000!!" (I may or may not be embellishing a little here, but this usually gets her off my back for a little while, until she starts in on "Well how do you know what you bought will be worth something some day? The guy at the store wouldn't be selling a full box for $50 if they were worth something!"... 893frustrated.gif

 

I don't know how to come back from this one, because to be honest, I really don't intend to collect for the sole purpose of making a profit (although it would definately help me out if I were able to flip a few books I wasn't interested in for some extra comic cash). I simply smile, tell her that I love her for her support and understanding, and I remind her that she spends $60 a week on yard sales and I never say anything about that (yard saling, btw, is HER hobby, she gets up every saturday morning religiously and goes out with her sister to check out other peoples junk that we will end up selling at our own yard sales... but I digress).

 

Anyhow, long story short, she doesnt exactly LIKE the fact that I've decided to start collecting comics, but she deals with it (albeit grudgingly) because she loves me, and because she assumes that one day my collection might be worth alot more than I paid for it (which may or may not be true).

 

Anyone else go through this at home? How do you deal with it?

 

Vince

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shadow2026

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I guess I was lucky since I was collecting comics prior to my marriage so my wife knew what she was getting into. Her only concern is the amount of space that my collection takes up. grin.gif

 

Good point... never even got into the "space" issues 27_laughing.gif

 

"Where you gonna put THAT!?" she asks, after seeing my enormously long.... box!

 

"In the closet dear Liza dear Liza in the closet"

 

"Well your babys dresses are in there and we have no place to put them right now and wha wha wha wha (at this point she begins sounding like Charlie Browns teacher)..."

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Good point... never even got into the "space" issues 27_laughing.gif

 

"Where you gonna put THAT!?" she asks, after seeing my enormously long.... box!

 

"In the closet dear Liza dear Liza in the closet"

 

P.S.

 

My wifes name is NOT Liza...

 

 

 

893scratchchin-thumb.gif Doesn't she get mad when you call her another woman's name?

 

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Good point... never even got into the "space" issues 27_laughing.gif

 

"Where you gonna put THAT!?" she asks, after seeing my enormously long.... box!

 

"In the closet dear Liza dear Liza in the closet"

 

P.S.

 

My wifes name is NOT Liza...

 

 

 

893scratchchin-thumb.gif Doesn't she get mad when you call her another woman's name?

 

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Of course it does, but then she stops about the comics! 27_laughing.gif

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My wife use to give me a hard time also until.....

 

I bought a 4000+ book collection of all Silver age (some golden) from a book dealer in Etna Pa. I pulled about 250 books for myself and started selling the rest off. This was in 1996. By 2000 I had made about a $10K profit. My wife has never said another word about my comics. thumbsup2.gif

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chromium

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Tell her (in detail) about some other hobbies men indulge in, the one about the guy who gave his baseball a fresh coat of paint every day for 30 years and now it's almost as big as his car...

 

Or the guys that collect every Barbie ever made, tell her about people who collect/keep/breed spiders and very large African insects....

 

Tell her there are people out there who call themselves "trainspotters" because this is what they do..all weekend long.

 

Tell her you are considering taking up Ultimate Cage Fighting as a hobby instead...

 

I'm pretty sure she'll get the message and will learn to live with your "silly" hobby..... sumo.gif

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Tell her (in detail) about some other hobbies men indulge in, the one about the guy who gave his baseball a fresh coat of paint every day for 30 years and now it's almost as big as his car...

 

Or the guys that collect every Barbie ever made, tell her about people who collect/keep/breed spiders and very large African insects....

 

Tell her there are people out there who call themselves "trainspotters" because this is what they do..all weekend long.

 

Tell her you are considering taking up Ultimate Cage Fighting as a hobby instead...

 

I'm pretty sure she'll get the message and will learn to live with your "silly" hobby..... sumo.gif

 

Maybe Steve could organise a CGC cage fight. Winner takes all. 27_laughing.gifinsane.gif

Who feels like a bit of excercise?? grin.gif

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Anyone else go through this at home? How do you deal with it?

 

 

The way I've gone through life over the last 15 years is if a girl made fun of my collection or called me a loser for collecting she'd get dumped. Comics are a part of me and if a girl can't accept that than well she just isn't worthy of my attention.

Luckily I've finally managed to find a girl (who is currently my fiance and been dating her for 5 years) that though she isn't a big fan of comics, still supports my hobby. She'll surprise me with comics (a complete yet missing half the top cover copy of Amazing Spiderman #9 so far has been the best gift), come with me to cons (and doesn't complain at all while there), and just basically helps me with my collection in any way possible because she knows it means something to me. She wants to learn more about my hobby. It's almost impossible to get her to read one though. insane.gif

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Here's the deal with women: Don't ever bring up the value of a comic book as the reason to keep it, as they always have pat "okay, then sell it", "who cares if you're gonna keep it til you're 100", and "by the time you sell, no one's going to want it" answers.

 

Concentrate on the hobby part, and do your best to make comic collecting a self-sustaining pursuit. If you want something new, sell something you already have to buy it outright, or at least defray the costs. Explain how much enjoyment you get out of collecting, and assuming you're not an alcoholic, drug addict or porn king, expound the virtues of how preferable it is to have comic collecting as your "one vice".

 

And as for the "if she doesn't like my collection, she's not worth my time" business, let's all get back to reality, and understand that you're never going to find someone who shares 100% of your interests, likes and dislikes. If you do, then you're marrying a clone, which is disgusting. tongue.gif

 

Marriage is one long series of concessions made between two different people, and if you don't understand that, you're in for a world of pain.

 

My wife has so many incredibly good qualities, I could care less if she bugs me about my comics (mostly, it's a "we're gonna need a bigger house for all this junk" kind of deal grin.gif) from time to time.

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Anyone else go through this at home? How do you deal with it?

 

 

The way I've gone through life over the last 15 years is if a girl made fun of my collection or called me a loser for collecting she'd get dumped. Comics are a part of me and if a girl can't accept that than well she just isn't worthy of my attention.

Luckily I've finally managed to find a girl (who is currently my fiance and been dating her for 5 years) that though she isn't a big fan of comics, still supports my hobby. She'll surprise me with comics (a complete yet missing half the top cover copy of Amazing Spiderman #9 so far has been the best gift), come with me to cons (and doesn't complain at all while there), and just basically helps me with my collection in any way possible because she knows it means something to me. She wants to learn more about my hobby. It's almost impossible to get her to read one though. insane.gif

 

Once you get that ring on her, you collection just may end up curbside! 27_laughing.gif27_laughing.gif27_laughing.gif

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Once you get that ring on her, you collection just may end up curbside! 27_laughing.gif27_laughing.gif27_laughing.gif

 

Well said, and all too true.

 

Once the real world of marriage with kids, houses, cars and careers sneak into the picture, women are suddenly less forgiving of the space, time and money you put into a comic collection.

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My wife use to give me a hard time also until.....

 

I bought a 4000+ book collection of all Silver age (some golden) from a book dealer in Etna Pa. I pulled about 250 books for myself and started selling the rest off. This was in 1996. By 2000 I had made about a $10K profit. My wife has never said another word about my comics. thumbsup2.gif

 

Same here! My wife was always annoyed with the money I spent on them and how much space they took up. I sold some books and made a hefty profit and she hasn't whined about them hardly at all. I took some of the profits and bought her some plants and all is well. She still mumbles about the space though every so often.

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She still mumbles about the space though every so often.

 

I really think that women are genetically aligned to seek out and dispose of any non-functional item (junk) that has been taking up space.

 

Spring cleaning in our house amounts to a long and grueling trial, where items are held up for my inspection, and I must plead their case perfectly or it's out on the curb. boo.gif

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You guys think you have it bad ??

 

I just bought this :

 

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No idea how I'll tell my wife and it's not like it's a comic book which I can sneak into the house..... 893whatthe.gifmakepoint.gif

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My wife has never had a problem or interest with my comics. BUT, I also don't use "our money" to buy them. "Our money" being what we both make at our jobs. I do flip quite frequently and use my profits to buy more comics. So the hobby pays for itself. If she ever had any kind of problem, or even a question about it, I would tell her why it is so, and leave it at that. I have a great understanding wife, but when it comes to her ever questioning a hobby or interest of mine, that does not affect her (and my comics don't) then she can say whatever she wants, but it will have no affect on me unless I agree with her. I would never let any woman change my life in a way that I did not want. If one even tried, she would not be my wife. But a woman that loved me would not try to change me in this way. Again, if she tried, she'd be gone. -----Sid

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