I think the controversy is that the "story" has changed over the years. Originally shops, albeit inaccurately, labeled SW #8 as the 1st appearance of Black Suit spidey (at least where I bought my copy of SW8 did). Then it was a tie for 1st between ASM 252, MTU 141 and PPSSM 90 based on the cover date of May 1984. So now that we have all this information literally at our fingertips, thanks to the interwebs, people are discovering the error and that in truth ASM 252 released 2 weeks prior to any of the contenders.
Even with the hard evidence of this information people are still going to believe what they believe, and that is their right no matter how untruthful that belief is. Sometimes debating can make someone "see the light" but in most cases it just continues to pit person versus person.
I am not versed in the Rom #1 part of the poll so I have no comments on that. Someone want to shed some light it?