solm4st3r Posted May 7, 2018 Share Posted May 7, 2018 Very sorry for your loss. RIP. jason4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larryw7 Posted May 7, 2018 Share Posted May 7, 2018 May God help you and your loved ones in your bereavement, and may your brother find peace in the loving arms of Our Lord. I'm so sorry. jason4, porcupine48 and ComicConnoisseur 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehumantorch Posted May 7, 2018 Share Posted May 7, 2018 Sigh, so sorry to hear of your brother. I've dealt with addiction problems in my family and it's very painful. You can see the awful choices they're making and you do everything you can possibly do to help them but nothing works. ComicConnoisseur and jason4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chip Cataldo Posted May 7, 2018 Share Posted May 7, 2018 Very sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. I know no words can truly make a difference but remember the great times you had together and focus on living a good life with your family. Take care and be well. ComicConnoisseur 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
427Impaler Posted May 7, 2018 Share Posted May 7, 2018 Truly a tragedy, my condolences on the loss of your brother. The heroin/fentanol crisis has hit very hard in my area, we have lost three people close to our family already this year. My heart goes out to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ComicConnoisseur Posted May 8, 2018 Share Posted May 8, 2018 I am sorry for your and parents loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jimjum12 Posted May 8, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted May 8, 2018 (edited) This type of post is always sad. I've gone back and forth over whether I should add this, but decided to go ahead. I grew up (...if it can be said that I ever truly did) during the 60's, 70's, and 80's...... and the drug culture was up and coming. It seemed like everyone tried something..... I even had teachers at school who were "cool". Over time I picked up quite the "monkey" and had devolved to a point that my own family members didn't welcome me in their homes.... I was just too wild and unpredictable. There were many signs along the way that I was on the wrong path..... I remember overdosing once, and luckily one of my friends had been an MP in the Air Force and knew CPR .....as he finally brought me back around I heard one of my other "friends" talking about how they hoped they weren't going to have to put me in the dumpster. Wow. That should have been a wake up call, but wasn't. Finally after many years of bouncing around, sometimes on the streets, mooching(...etc.)..... I finally got a few months in jail and dried out. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired", finally got a sponsor and worked ALL twelve steps.... that was almost 20 years ago that I became "clean and sober"..... and even though I pissed away over half my life, I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones. I don't know exactly when I started it, but I have this list in a spiral notebook of friends who lost their lives to "the life" .....I almost have a page filled now..... almost all were gone before they hit 50, many before they turned 30..... murders, OD's, suicides .... it can get ugly. One thing I remember about all these friends.... as it came to the end, they all wished they weren't that way but just couldn't seem to stop. They all knew that they were breaking the hearts of their families and friends but just couldn't put on the brakes. The obituaries are one of the first things I check in the papers..... lost two more friends last month, and there just aren't many more left from my old life. I really don't know what to say..... but those support groups seem to help.... they even have groups for the family members who are struggling to cope. Sorry for the downer so early in the morning ...... but sometimes when you least expect it, your loved one might change..... I did. I remember my sister just started crying about a year after I sobered up..... said she couldn't believe she finally had her brother back...... I was like, "Sis..... I've been straight for over a year now ?"........ she said she just wasn't sure.... maybe it was more BS..... I also remember hearing about a good friend who OD'd at a party..... they just dragged him out to the back porch and kept right on with the party,they didn't want to deal with the Ambulance or Cops..... these were his "friends". Don't let that get the best of you..... GOD BLESS... -jimbo(a friend of jesus) Edited May 8, 2018 by jimjum12 F For Fake, porcupine48, Larryw7 and 5 others 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F For Fake Posted May 8, 2018 Share Posted May 8, 2018 5 hours ago, jimjum12 said: This type of post is always sad. I've gone back and forth over whether I should add this, but decided to go ahead. I grew up (...if it can be said that I ever truly did) during the 60's, 70's, and 80's...... and the drug culture was up and coming. It seemed like everyone tried something..... I even had teachers at school who were "cool". Over time I picked up quite the "monkey" and had devolved to a point that my own family members didn't welcome me in their homes.... I was just too wild and unpredictable. There were many signs along the way that I was on the wrong path..... I remember overdosing once, and luckily one of my friends had been an MP in the Air Force and knew CPR .....as he finally brought me back around I heard one of my other "friends" talking about how they hoped they weren't going to have to put me in the dumpster. Wow. That should have been a wake up call, but wasn't. Finally after many years of bouncing around, sometimes on the streets, mooching(...etc.)..... I finally got a few months in jail and dried out. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired", finally got a sponsor and worked ALL twelve steps.... that was almost 20 years ago that I became "clean and sober"..... and even though I pissed away over half my life, I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones. I don't know exactly when I started it, but I have this list in a spiral notebook of friends who lost their lives to "the life" .....I almost have a page filled now..... almost all were gone before they hit 50, many before they turned 30..... murders, OD's, suicides .... it can get ugly. One thing I remember about all these friends.... as it came to the end, they all wished they weren't that way but just couldn't seem to stop. They all knew that they were breaking the hearts of their families and friends but just couldn't put on the brakes. The obituaries are one of the first things I check in the papers..... lost two more friends last month, and there just aren't many more left from my old life. I really don't know what to say..... but those support groups seem to help.... they even have groups for the family members who are struggling to cope. Sorry for the downer so early in the morning ...... but sometimes when you least expect it, your loved one might change..... I did. I remember my sister just started crying about a year after I sobered up..... said she couldn't believe she finally had her brother back...... I was like, "Sis..... I've been straight for over a year now ?"........ she said she just wasn't sure.... maybe it was more BS..... I also remember hearing about a good friend who OD'd at a party..... they just dragged him out to the back porch and kept right on with the party,they didn't want to deal with the Ambulance or Cops..... these were his "friends". Don't let that get the best of you..... GOD BLESS... -jimbo(a friend of jesus) Thanks for sharing Jimbo, it's an inspiring story. My wife is also in recovery, 11 years sober now. I know it's not easy, and I have a ton of respect for folks who are able to dig themselves out of those depths, and great sympathy for those who aren't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimjum12 Posted May 8, 2018 Share Posted May 8, 2018 1 minute ago, F For Fake said: Thanks for sharing Jimbo, it's an inspiring story. My wife is also in recovery, 11 years sober now. I know it's not easy, and I have a ton of respect for folks who are able to dig themselves out of those depths, and great sympathy for those who aren't. There's nothing worse than finding someone you care about dead..... Bravo to your Wife.....that "one day at a time" stuff works for some reason. GOD BLESS.... -jimbo(a friend of jesus) F For Fake 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
