hmm an awkward dilemma

[topofthetotem]

[MrBedrock]

I always find it amusing when a bunch of comic collectors get together and talk about their manhood!

Sid, good luck in getting your stuff back. It will happen if you want 'em.

[topofthetotem]

I always find it amusing when a bunch of comic collectors get together and talk about their manhood!

Sal, good luck in getting your stuff back. It will happen if you want 'em.

It's Sid not Sal.

[aardvark88]

sid,

If your ex was the 1 doing the kicking and screaming, your comics, cd's and photos are already in the dumpster. Walk away and maintain your sanity.

[DaveRhodeIsland]

Don't listen to those telling you to forget about you stuff. Give it a couple of weeks to cool down and then call or visit in person (you aren't under any restraining orders I hope) and politely but firmly tell her that you want your belongings back.

 

I can't believe the numbers of "men" these days who won't do the least bit to assert themselves when it's clear that they have a right to do so.

 

It's clear that you have a right to your belongings, so don't be afraid or intimidated. It's your stuff, go get it. Remember, polite but firm. Don't be afraid to be a man and demand your property. Good luck.

 

oh no, now my manhood has been insulted. i would respond, but fear of further character assassination prevents me from doing the manly thing and telling you to FOAD.

 

i guarantee you that neither Nik nor I are "intimidated" by the process of getting stuff back. we just both realise that the headaches might not be worth it. but thanks for the insinuations, they were worth a chuckle

 

Hey if you're offended it's because you feel there's some relevance to my post. I didn't single out anyone in particular. If you subscribe to the idea that it's not "worth it" to make an effort to get what's rightfully yours, then I do question your definition of what a man is. The same applies for a woman, too. Everyone has the right to stick up for themselves - if one chooses not to, then that's a form of weakness. Rationalize it any way you wish.

 

no, i'm not offended, i just think you're a *spoon*. you seem to like telling people what they're thinking before asking for clarification. which wouldn't be a problem if a) you knew what you were talking about and b) you were right. but you don't, and you're not, so excuse me if i respond to it. for what it's worth, and even though you never asked, i wasn't even referencing "sticking up for (one's self)," but was talking about picking the battles you choose to wage and the manner in which you wage them.

 

if you have the balls to insinuate someone's "unmanly" because they'd choose a different path than you to, then have the balls to admit you're talking about them when they call you on it

 

I'm not insinuating anything - let me spell it out for you; if someone has your stuff, and you want it back (as the OP does, or else this thread wouldn't exist!) then you go get it back. As a man would. Or a woman. But to whine about how you want your stuff but don't know how to get it, is truly not manly behavior. If you behave this way then I say you are not acting like a man. Or a woman if you're female.

 

Basically it means doing what is in your best interest and not "picking your battles" which is code for wimping out. So I'm an a--hole, a d--khead, whatever - I don't really care what you think about me. Just don't go through the one life you have making lame excuses and then rationalizing them as acceptable. And I'm talking about you, so don't question my having balls or not. I'm not the one saying that it's ok to walk away from your stuff with your tail between your legs.

[MrBedrock]

so don't question my having balls or not.

 

Dave, I don't think anyone would presume to question your ball possession.

And it is obvious that your manhood is large and outstanding. Please continue to

contribute these informative posts, and thanks for the insight!

[Sal]

no, i'm not offended, i just think you're a *spoon*. you seem to like telling people what they're thinking before asking for clarification. which wouldn't be a problem if a) you knew what you were talking about and b) you were right. but you don't, and you're not, so excuse me if i respond to it. for what it's worth, and even though you never asked, i wasn't even referencing "sticking up for (one's self)," but was talking about picking the battles you choose to wage and the manner in which you wage them.

 

if you have the balls to insinuate someone's "unmanly" because they'd choose a different path than you to, then have the balls to admit you're talking about them when they call you on it

 

I'm not insinuating anything - let me spell it out for you; if someone has your stuff, and you want it back (as the OP does, or else this thread wouldn't exist!) then you go get it back. As a man would. Or a woman. But to whine about how you want your stuff but don't know how to get it, is truly not manly behavior. If you behave this way then I say you are not acting like a man. Or a woman if you're female.

 

Basically it means doing what is in your best interest and not "picking your battles" which is code for wimping out. So I'm an a--hole, a d--khead, whatever - I don't really care what you think about me. Just don't go through the one life you have making lame excuses and then rationalizing them as acceptable. And I'm talking about you, so don't question my having balls or not. I'm not the one saying that it's ok to walk away from your stuff with your tail between your legs.

 

 

i'm really not interested in trying to explain just what part of my thought process you seem unable to grasp, so i'm just going to let it drop, fully expecting you to believe that my doing so means i'm, like, not a man or something. sound good, champ?

[Aman619]

wimping out huh?? : )

[Aman619]

maybe you guys broke up cause you were spending more time with your comics than with her?

In that case, going back for them WOULD be a bit more trouble than they apparently are worth. If thats the case, Id let em go too rather than deal with more histrionics. They dont seem to be all that scarve or valuable right?

[topofthetotem]

maybe you guys broke up cause you were spending more time with your comics than with her?

Or maybe you spent too much time on the boards.

Go back to the real world there are too many ball obsessed crazies on these boards anyway.

[DaveRhodeIsland]

no, i'm not offended, i just think you're a *spoon*. you seem to like telling people what they're thinking before asking for clarification. which wouldn't be a problem if a) you knew what you were talking about and b) you were right. but you don't, and you're not, so excuse me if i respond to it. for what it's worth, and even though you never asked, i wasn't even referencing "sticking up for (one's self)," but was talking about picking the battles you choose to wage and the manner in which you wage them.

 

if you have the balls to insinuate someone's "unmanly" because they'd choose a different path than you to, then have the balls to admit you're talking about them when they call you on it

 

I'm not insinuating anything - let me spell it out for you; if someone has your stuff, and you want it back (as the OP does, or else this thread wouldn't exist!) then you go get it back. As a man would. Or a woman. But to whine about how you want your stuff but don't know how to get it, is truly not manly behavior. If you behave this way then I say you are not acting like a man. Or a woman if you're female.

 

Basically it means doing what is in your best interest and not "picking your battles" which is code for wimping out. So I'm an a--hole, a d--khead, whatever - I don't really care what you think about me. Just don't go through the one life you have making lame excuses and then rationalizing them as acceptable. And I'm talking about you, so don't question my having balls or not. I'm not the one saying that it's ok to walk away from your stuff with your tail between your legs.

 

 

i'm really not interested in trying to explain just what part of my thought process you seem unable to grasp, so i'm just going to let it drop, fully expecting you to believe that my doing so means i'm, like, not a man or something. sound good, champ?

 

Yes, sounds good. Look, I wasn't trying to question anyone's manhood or whatever - I tend to go a bit overboard with a lot of things and find myself in these situations. I'd like to just put this past us with the hope that you can acknowledge that while I come across as an a--hole sometimes, I really didn't mean to insult anyone. Hey, if this were in my neighborhood I'd buy you a beer and take my lumps for being an . I'd like to think that we can disagree and get mad at each other without it being permanent.

[Fazybones]

Hi Sid,

 

I'm sorry to hear about your break up and I don't mean to pry and was it anything to do with comics and these boards or other issues.

 

There have been some interesting points I've enjoyed reading and a few have really made me laugh, although it's definitely not a laughing matter. You know her better than us and I think some time would probably help you make a better judgement unless it's only a small portion of your collection. If they aren't books you really care about then maybe some previous advice about walking away is a good idea and she might surprise you and contact you in a week or so to pick up your stuff.

 

Good luck with however this turns out for you.

fay

[Ze-man]

You know her better than us and I think some time would probably help you make a better judgement

 

Wise words your Fayness.

 

Giving advice to a situation without know all the details, nor the people involved is a dangerous thing.

 

Hope things work out Sid cause breaking up is hard to do.

 

 

Ze-

[worldsbestcomics]

I did that once...my comics are still in her parents storage facility and it's been 10 years. However, I'm a wuss so... ...oh and they were just a bunch of crappy X-men and Spidey's from the 80's anyway.

 

Let me help out MutantKeys here. Any 9.8s?

[Ze-man]

I did that once...my comics are still in her parents storage facility and it's been 10 years. However, I'm a wuss so... ...oh and they were just a bunch of crappy X-men and Spidey's from the 80's anyway.

 

Let me help out MutantKeys here. Any 9.8s?

 

The only person allowed to refer to 9.8's as "crappy' is Greggy. So I imagine there are no grails for Danny.

 

 

Ze-

[THE_BEYONDER]

Go to her house to pick up your books with another girl on your arm. Bring video camera......

 

 

 

BTW - If she was aware that you post on these forums...I imagine she's probably reading this thread right now.

[Fazybones]

You know her better than us and I think some time would probably help you make a better judgement

 

Wise words your Fayness.

 

Giving advice to a situation without know all the details, nor the people involved is a dangerous thing.

 

Hope things work out Sid cause breaking up is hard to do.

 

 

Ze-

 

 

Thank you Kenny,

 

I think that's my first compliment or wise words description of a post I've made since I joined these boards six months ago. Too bad it's not concerning comics and I don't claim to be a relationship expert although I've been with the same guy since 1986 and no offence to my many fellow male board members, but many guys aren't always a bowl of cherries to be with. for all my male board members including the infamous JC. It's good to see you back and I enjoyed your interesting views to say the least during my lurking status.

 

And once again good luck Sid and I really hope you get both back, your girl and your comics.

[binarysunrise]

Um...so when are we going to see some pics? Some of us need some visualization to help you here...

[Sal]

no, i'm not offended, i just think you're a *spoon*. you seem to like telling people what they're thinking before asking for clarification. which wouldn't be a problem if a) you knew what you were talking about and b) you were right. but you don't, and you're not, so excuse me if i respond to it. for what it's worth, and even though you never asked, i wasn't even referencing "sticking up for (one's self)," but was talking about picking the battles you choose to wage and the manner in which you wage them.

 

if you have the balls to insinuate someone's "unmanly" because they'd choose a different path than you to, then have the balls to admit you're talking about them when they call you on it

 

I'm not insinuating anything - let me spell it out for you; if someone has your stuff, and you want it back (as the OP does, or else this thread wouldn't exist!) then you go get it back. As a man would. Or a woman. But to whine about how you want your stuff but don't know how to get it, is truly not manly behavior. If you behave this way then I say you are not acting like a man. Or a woman if you're female.

 

Basically it means doing what is in your best interest and not "picking your battles" which is code for wimping out. So I'm an a--hole, a d--khead, whatever - I don't really care what you think about me. Just don't go through the one life you have making lame excuses and then rationalizing them as acceptable. And I'm talking about you, so don't question my having balls or not. I'm not the one saying that it's ok to walk away from your stuff with your tail between your legs.

 

 

i'm really not interested in trying to explain just what part of my thought process you seem unable to grasp, so i'm just going to let it drop, fully expecting you to believe that my doing so means i'm, like, not a man or something. sound good, champ?

 

Yes, sounds good. Look, I wasn't trying to question anyone's manhood or whatever - I tend to go a bit overboard with a lot of things and find myself in these situations. I'd like to just put this past us with the hope that you can acknowledge that while I come across as an a--hole sometimes, I really didn't mean to insult anyone. Hey, if this were in my neighborhood I'd buy you a beer and take my lumps for being an . I'd like to think that we can disagree and get mad at each other without it being permanent.

 

i couldn't agree more. you owe me a beer

[Fazybones]

Um...so when are we going to see some pics? Some of us need some visualization to help you here...

 

I'm confused which isn't hard and are you asking for pictures of Sid's girlfriend or me?