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OT: Yikes, My Wife Wants To Move

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nik

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:cry:

 

She is tired of Mass, tired of our snobby little clicque town we live in :tonofbricks:

 

Here I am living the American dream. Never went to college, self-employed, very nice home in a very safe, suburban town. She just got hired as a Math specialist for all the public schools of Framingham, great pay, lots of hours though, and she wants to move :tonofbricks:

 

It has taken us almost 10 years to get to this point in our lives, but she is fed up with this state, fed up with the expenses that come along with living in a select town, and fed up with the snobs.

 

She threw out Wyoming, and God I hope she was joking :eek:

 

Kids don't want to move, I am too old to start a business all over again, and there is no way we will make the kind of money we are making now. Granted it goes out sometimes as soon as it comes in, but thats a sacrifice we have made for the kids.

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I am, we are going to Greece next month. This time I think its more then just stress, as she handles stress alot better then I can.

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I am, we are going to Greece next month. This time I think its more then just stress, as she handles stress alot better then I can.

 

Coming from one that handles stress very well...everyone has a breaking point.

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I am, we are going to Greece next month. This time I think its more then just stress, as she handles stress alot better then I can.

 

Coming from one that handles stress very well...everyone has a breaking point.

:gossip:

 

We almost broke you :(
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skypinkblu

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I agree, it's probably stress, she may "handle" it, but women internalize a lot of stuff men don't see. I also don't know how old she is, but women have to deal with a lot of hormonal stress starting as early as their late 30's.

I use this method when we get to the point where there are emotional/big financial decisions...take a legal pad (or just a piece of paper), draw a line down the middle and do one side for Pros, and one for Cons. It makes a big difference, when it's all written out in front of you and you can see the list. When she sees on the Con list, how upset the kids are going to be, and the problem with your earning a decent living so you can afford to put them through college, she'll get a better picture. Being able to visualize the Pros and Cons helps a tremendous amount. You can always suggest that moving can be a plan for when you both retire and the kids are out of school (thumbs u

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Foolkiller

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Probably a temporary feeling... places like Wyoming sound great til you get there. I'm sure once she thinks about how hard it will be to move the kids out of school and away from friends and the drastic financial change she will reconsider.

 

Plus, you guys can always move once all the kids go to college or whatever...

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VintageComics

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Nik, that's a tough one. Wow. Hopefully she reconsiders as your business and the kid's stability also should have some say. Is it possible to move "not to far" out of town?

Restarting a business is not impossible but is shure is not as easy now as it was when we are younger. Who need that hassle all over again.

 

doh!

 

I guess the only thing to say i that there really should not be any rush decisions made and usually the right things happen if you give them time.

 

I almost moved to the Mediterranean coast a few years ago.Thought it was going to happen and then poof....things changed when I least expected them to.

 

It's tough when there are two careers to worry about too.

 

R.

 

:wishluck:

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I am, we are going to Greece next month. This time I think its more then just stress, as she handles stress alot better then I can.

 

Coming from one that handles stress very well...everyone has a breaking point.

:gossip:

 

We almost broke you :(

 

:cloud9:

 

 

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