Request To Remove Chip Cataldo From The HOS 7 7

[Number 6]

On 11/22/2023 at 4:30 PM, Math Teacher said:

Well, considering that it was @Cat who brought the mental health issue up, is Cat the one who is playing and manipulating me or is it Chip?

Since you’ve read the linked thread you now probably have a better idea of who I was referring to but just to be absolutely clear:  I was referring to Chip, not Cat.

While I don’t necessarily agree with Cat’s impression of Chip’s status, I think Cat relayed that information in good faith and without any attempt to deceive.  

 

 

[newshane]

I think HOS membership should be permanent. 

[fmaz]

I don't think anyone here isn't happy to hear a story of redemption. But even if we take the OP's request at face value, the fact is as many have said - the HOS exists for a reason. You're welcome to continue to be a productive an active board member. But if you commit a violation of trust so egregious that it rises to that level, then it's important to EVERYONE who buys and sells here that they know: we have a zero tolerance for such people, unlike almost all other places where they will buy/sell online. That's what makes this place special. If we were to violate this, we'd be violating our own trust.

For this reason, those who created this system were wise enough to make a two-tiered punishment system. HOS and probation. I don't know Chip nor his story, but because I know the rules, I know what line he crossed. That's enough for me.

Again, very pleased he's doing better. Hope he posts/contributes to the board in other ways if he wishes... but absolutely not in favor of breaking the rules.

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

 

[CAHokie]

Mental Health should be treated and not ignored but it doesn’t provide an excuse or erasure of past actions.

I can’t help but wonder something. If a list that is rarely looked at or referenced unless needed is bad for one’s mental health then how about this thread?

There is no way this thread was not going to bring up all the bad things from the past.

Was Chip consulted before opening this thread about him?

I feel that this is one of those things done with good intentions but no thought behind it. It may make a few posters feel better about themselves but at what expense to Chip….the one we are supposed to be “caring” about?

[Cat]

On 11/24/2023 at 12:20 AM, CAHokie said:

Mental Health should be treated and not ignored but it doesn’t provide an excuse or erasure of past actions.

I can’t help but wonder something. If a list that is rarely looked at or referenced unless needed is bad for one’s mental health then how about this thread?

There is no way this thread was not going to bring up all the bad things from the past.

Was Chip consulted before opening this thread about him?

I feel that this is one of those things done with good intentions but no thought behind it. It may make a few posters feel better about themselves but at what expense to Chip….the one we are supposed to be “caring” about?

I did not consult Chip, no. I'm very much regretting what I've done, and feel terrible. 

[CAHokie]

On 11/23/2023 at 12:46 PM, Cat said:

I did not consult Chip, no. I'm very much regretting what I've done, and feel terrible. 

I know you had good intentions.

[Chip Cataldo]

Cat is fine, he had the best of intentions and nothing said here as a result has been bad. I'm not upset at all about anything. I don't get upset anymore and my mental health is just fine. I appreciate everyone's comments and look forward to slowly posting more in the forum. 

[VintageComics]

On 11/23/2023 at 2:47 PM, Chip Cataldo said:

Cat is fine, he had the best of intentions and nothing said here as a result has been bad. I'm not upset at all about anything. I don't get upset anymore and my mental health is just fine. I appreciate everyone's comments and look forward to slowly posting more in the forum. 

I think you're on a good path. There were times in my life many years ago when even discussions like this may have shaken me. 

The quest is to discover who we really are, face it and then find that true inner centering, and this makes all the outside noise unimportant. You become unshakable.

That path has been the goal for me for many years and it was a lot of hard work but I can genuinely say that my happiness, or better put, my peace comes from inside and from how I see myself not from any outside circumstances. What happens on the outside really is irrelevant to me. 

This isn't so much to preach to you but rather to acknowledge that you've obviously made progress on that path and to just encourage you to stay on it.

 

[wombat]

A few comments. And it might seem harsh. Mental Health is not some kind of get out of jail free card from the HOS. It should have no bearing whatsoever on removal. Person A and person B so very similar things to get put on the HOS. Do we remove person A on because it would improve their mental health, but not remove person B because they are fine mentally?

Apart from that I don't think anyone should ever be removed from the HOS. No matter what changes they have made that doesn't erase what they have done in the past. And as many have pointed out, its not like they can't post here. So what is really the punishment? Buying and selling? They can do that in a thousand other places. Heck, I'm sure through private messages they could still do that here. 

Lastly, I would think the road to "redemption" on this forum would entail being an active helpful poster. Being a good member of the community. 

 

[jsilverjanet]

On 11/24/2023 at 11:30 AM, wombat said:

So what is really the punishment? Buying and selling? They can do that in a thousand other places. Heck, I'm sure through private messages they could still do that here. 

I believe they can still buy, unless the seller stipulates they don't sell to members on the HOS

 

[Prince Namor]

On 11/23/2023 at 10:32 AM, pemart1966 said:

Has this individual made restitution of any kind?

This is what I came here to say.

 

[newshane]

On 11/24/2023 at 12:30 PM, wombat said:

Apart from that I don't think anyone should ever be removed from the HOS. No matter what changes they have made that doesn't erase what they have done in the past. 

 

It’s really that simple. 

[Grendel72]

It's akin to having someone wishing to have all the negative news about them on Google removed as they have reformed. Historical evidence should never be removed or whitewashed. We should look forward and hope that time will be a great healer and that some people will recognise the difference in the person in form and substance. 

[Chip Cataldo]

Thanks for the comments, everyone. I've begun posting again and am happy to be interacting with everyone. This really is a fun place to be.

As far as not buying/selling, as I said before that is fine and no big deal. I understand why I'm remaining on the HOS and I won't be selling or buying here. It's not wanted by all and not needed by me to be a productive member of this community again.

[BlowUpTheMoon]

On 11/24/2023 at 5:57 PM, Prince Namor said:

On 11/22/2023 at 10:32 PM, pemart1966 said:

Has this individual made restitution of any kind?

This is what I came here to say.

Still unanswered? 

[Prince Namor]

On 11/26/2023 at 9:50 AM, BlowUpTheMoon said:

Still unanswered? 

I stole $10,000 from you in a comic deal. But now it's ten years later. I truly am sorry. I truly am a changed man. People can vouch for me.

Want to buy some comics?

LOL. Uh, no.

Edited November 26, 2023 by Prince Namor

[thehumantorch]

On 11/23/2023 at 10:46 AM, Cat said:

I did not consult Chip, no. I'm very much regretting what I've done, and feel terrible. 

Don't regret this.  You see someone who's changing for the better and now you're advocating for them.  There's nothing in it for you, you're very kind.

For the record I've dealt with a fair amount of addiction and problems in my family.  I wish just one of them would straighten out and become a better person.

[pemart1966]

On 11/25/2023 at 9:50 PM, BlowUpTheMoon said:

Still unanswered? 

[Cat]

On 11/26/2023 at 1:22 PM, thehumantorch said:

Don't regret this.  You see someone who's changing for the better and now you're advocating for them.  There's nothing in it for you, you're very kind.

For the record I've dealt with a fair amount of addiction and problems in my family.  I wish just one of them would straighten out and become a better person.

Thank you for the kind words, and I'm sorry you've got those problems within your family. Hopefully one day you'll be in a position to advocate for them after they've showed change. 

[Chip Cataldo]

On 11/25/2023 at 9:50 PM, BlowUpTheMoon said:

Still unanswered? 

Just as all my transgressions were researched thoroughly all over the internet and posted here, I'm sure people can find the stuff from last year when I reached out on the forum and paid people here back that wanted to be paid back. Kav, Sharon, Beige, Bird were amongst the people made whole. I also left things open that if anyone knew of someone that wanted a donation refund or had missed my initial outreach, they could contact me at any time to work something out. That remains the status of it all and something I'll continue to do moving forward. 

Edited November 26, 2023 by Chip Cataldo