8 hours ago, uchiha101 said:

Sam really is amazing. I've been talking to her that I will get my passport and ID updated so that I can visit her and her sister. She knows this. But seriously, I am bad with directions and before I leave I want to make sure I go to the right place and not end up in the wrong city. 

Modern technology makes it much easier to not get lost. There are plenty of us here on the boards that travel professionally. I'm happy to share some tips or suggestions if/when you are ever ready to make the journey. 

14 hours ago, kav said:

bah I can handle 10 or more.

Any video of this gang____?

26 minutes ago, Red84 said:

Gabe, do NOT do this. This will in no way help you and will possibly hurt the relationship that you have. Having her say anything on the boards would not prove anything to anyone.

 

To EVERYONE POSTING here, please think about what you are saying and suggesting before you write it. Think about the possible ramifications of what you are saying and whether you are being helpful or hurtful.

I agree with this advice.  The response would be savage.  

26 minutes ago, Red84 said:

Gabe, do NOT do this. This will in no way help you and will possibly hurt the relationship that you have. Having her say anything on the boards would not prove anything to anyone.

 

To EVERYONE POSTING here, please think about what you are saying and suggesting before you write it. Think about the possible ramifications of what you are saying and whether you are being helpful or hurtful.

I told him this along time ago that he has nothing to prove to anyone.

But hopefully some proper guidance will be beneficial to him

Granted the criticism and backlash appear harsh I can see some room for spiritual and emotional growth here.

Clearly Gabe has strong feelings for Sam,evident of his defensive over her and the responses and need for attention.

7 minutes ago, F For Fake said:

This. I've been reading Gabe's journal since it first began, though I never commented, because I was pulling for him. But things have spun out of control, and this isn't funny anymore.

I believe that Gabe believes everything that he is saying is true. I don't think he's lying. I think he is being lied too, and he believes it, because he is apparently not in a great space mentally right now.

Gabe, your decision making hasn't been great over the years, but you used to show some ambition and gumption. I hope you'll return to that. This fantasy-land about Sam isn't healthy, and I am sincerely worried about your mental state when you find out the truth.

I'm not trying to lecture you, because I know you will react poorly to that. But please, get some help, and get your head straight. If you're still hung up on Sam, you need to get over this hurdle so you can move on. You need to Skype or Webcam or something so you can see who you're actually talking to, and then you can move on with your life. No excuses for you or for her, just do it, like ripping off a band-aid or jumping in a cold pool of water. May seem tough, but once you do it, you'll wonder why you waited so long. If she is what she said she is (she should be able to prove what she looks like and even demonstrate these "powers" via webcam) then that should light a fire under you to go ahead get your affairs in order so you can go see her. And if she is lying to you, which seems more likely, then you can finally admit it to yourself, and move on with your life.

You've said your health isn't good. You say you're not sleeping. Fantasies about being trained to be a soldier by a super powered internet wife...dude, this is seriously alarming. YOU ARE NOT WELL.

I wish you the very, very best. Get it together. This journal began as "your road to success". Get back on that road, bud!

As for the rest of us: guys, this is a kid. A delusional kid. It was funny until it proved to be scary. Don't throw more gas on the fire. I'm not even going to look at this thread again because I don't want to be a party to it. I've said my piece. But don't egg him on. It's not cool.

I understand the soldier thing,and the impact of aggressive and violent video games.

Being a soldier suggest unity and togetherness,something that he feels he is lacking here in the group by the cavalier responses he is getting.

This is a good chat site,where nobody would ever steer you in the wrong direction Gabe.

I've said it before

A healthy mind needs a healthy environment to grow.

12 hours ago, uchiha101 said:

None of what I say are delusions.

That's exactly what a delusional person would say...

2 minutes ago, Red84 said:

Gabe, do NOT do this. This will in no way help you and will possibly hurt the relationship that you have. Having her say anything on the boards would not prove anything to anyone.

 

To EVERYONE POSTING here, please think about what you are saying and suggesting before you write it. Think about the possible ramifications of what you are saying and whether you are being helpful or hurtful.

How much more hurtful can it get?

I kind of get what you are saying/your intention, but if he finds out the relationship is a sham, he would be hurt. However, I would argue that would be less hurtful for him to find out now rather than after he finally gets his passport and bus ticket or whatever to go see god knows who and gets stuck there, or worse.  As much as people are giving him a hard time, most people here trying to tell him that this "relationship" is not real (this is her picture but not her picture/super powers, really?) so he does not get hurt or taken advantage of. 

6 minutes ago, Wall-Crawler said:

How much more hurtful can it get?

I kind of get what you are saying/your intention, but if he finds out the relationship is a sham, he would be hurt. However, I would argue that would be less hurtful for him to find out now rather than after he finally gets his passport and bus ticket or whatever to go see god knows who and gets stuck there, or worse.  As much as people are giving him a hard time, most people here trying to tell him that this "relationship" is not real (this is her picture but not her picture/super powers, really?) so he does not get hurt or taken advantage of. 

He has an opportunity to do webcam with her,and shes the one who suggested it,but he refuses.

I agree,this could turn out to be a really bad investment

Financially 

Emotionally 

Psychologically 

Physically

8 hours ago, bane said:

I signed up for a Yoga class last month, the teacher asked me "how flexible are you?" I said "I can't make Tuesdays."

Haha

3 hours ago, Wall-Crawler said:

 

Understatement of the Year.

I guess you could say that

3 hours ago, mattn792 said:

You’re lying and you’re afraid.

I'm not lying. I'm not afraid to see Sam.

3 hours ago, Wall-Crawler said:

Not in a good way Gabe...Not in a good way...

Oh, well that changes things. 

3 hours ago, Hollywood1892 said:

I agree about the fear.

And this can happen with people who cant see their success,they develop an inferiority complex and look for someone stronger than themselves,but than they can never meet that persons expectations,so it actually makes the complex even worse.

Than they begin to create a false reality for themselves,one that is built on deceit,and the problem with that is,they begin to believe this fable because it protects them from the pain of their lack of self confidence.

What you need to do Gabe is believe in yourself,first and foremost.

Develop a strong work ethic,self love and supreme focus on the goals you want to achieve in life.

But these have to be realistic goals

Use the SMART goal setting module

S-Specific

M-Measurable

A-Achievable

R-Relavant,Realistic

T-Time Framed

The goal setting is a strategy

While the steps are the tactics to completing your overall objectives

 

What are you talking about? I was just saying that I'm not lying or afraid of seeing Sam and you went into a speech 

3 hours ago, Wall-Crawler said:

How about this...How about you invite "Sam" and her "sister" to join the boards and vouch for your "relationship" here? I mean, if you are "married" or whatever, that shouldn't be a problem for her right?

I can always ask her and see what she says. 

2 hours ago, Hollywood1892 said:

Get it together Gabe

Stop making excuses

Again, I'm telling the truth and you think I'm lying. That makes me angry.

1 minute ago, uchiha101 said:

I'm not lying. I'm not afraid to see Sam.

Yes you are, you’re afraid that this world you’ve built up in your mind is going to come crashing down when you try to merge fantasy with reality.  So you come up with a whole bunch of excuses to avoid doing so.  Your beliefs about your situation are outlandish, and I think even a small part of you knows that.

I’ve been blunt with you because I’m legitimately worried for you.  At best your building up to a scary emotional crash.  At worst...let’s not even discuss that.

Take control of this. Find out who you’re dealing with. If you know her full name and where she lives, see if you can check publicly available records about her. WebCam with her. Get some grounding in reality with the situation.

Contrary to your belief, you do not know better than everyone. No one is jealous of you, that’s laughable. People are trying to help, stop staying closed off to their advice. It may hurt, it’s no fun, but it is best for you in the long run.

1 hour ago, DocHoppus182 said:

I’ve had a long week.  The last 15 pages have really made up for it.  

I'm glad you're enjoying yourself 

1 hour ago, Dave2739 said:

Modern technology makes it much easier to not get lost. There are plenty of us here on the boards that travel professionally. I'm happy to share some tips or suggestions if/when you are ever ready to make the journey. 

If I ever have any questions I will pm you about them

1 hour ago, Red84 said:

Gabe, do NOT do this. This will in no way help you and will possibly hurt the relationship that you have. Having her say anything on the boards would not prove anything to anyone.

 

To EVERYONE POSTING here, please think about what you are saying and suggesting before you write it. Think about the possible ramifications of what you are saying and whether you are being helpful or hurtful.

So you think it's a bad idea? 

4 minutes ago, uchiha101 said:

Again, I'm telling the truth and you think I'm lying. That makes me angry.

Is your skin turning Green?

1 hour ago, F For Fake said:

This. I've been reading Gabe's journal since it first began, though I never commented, because I was pulling for him. But things have spun out of control, and this isn't funny anymore.

I believe that Gabe believes everything that he is saying is true. I don't think he's lying. I think he is being lied too, and he believes it, because he is apparently not in a great space mentally right now.

Gabe, your decision making hasn't been great over the years, but you used to show some ambition and gumption. I hope you'll return to that. This fantasy-land about Sam isn't healthy, and I am sincerely worried about your mental state when you find out the truth.

I'm not trying to lecture you, because I know you will react poorly to that. But please, get some help, and get your head straight. If you're still hung up on Sam, you need to get over this hurdle so you can move on. You need to Skype or Webcam or something so you can see who you're actually talking to, and then you can move on with your life. No excuses for you or for her, just do it, like ripping off a band-aid or jumping in a cold pool of water. May seem tough, but once you do it, you'll wonder why you waited so long. If she is what she said she is (she should be able to prove what she looks like and even demonstrate these "powers" via webcam) then that should light a fire under you to go ahead get your affairs in order so you can go see her. And if she is lying to you, which seems more likely, then you can finally admit it to yourself, and move on with your life.

You've said your health isn't good. You say you're not sleeping. Fantasies about being trained to be a soldier by a super powered internet wife...dude, this is seriously alarming. YOU ARE NOT WELL.

I wish you the very, very best. Get it together. This journal began as "your road to success". Get back on that road, bud!

As for the rest of us: guys, this is a kid. A delusional kid. It was funny until it proved to be scary. Don't throw more gas on the fire. I'm not even going to look at this thread again because I don't want to be a party to it. I've said my piece. But don't egg him on. It's not cool.

Man, you've really blown things out of proportion. I am not going to be some "solider" but just regular training to become stronger. I am not deluded it's just that I have an unusual life that makes people believe that I am. 

1 hour ago, chrisco37 said:

I agree with this advice.  The response would be savage.  

Got it. 

1 hour ago, Hollywood1892 said:

I understand the soldier thing,and the impact of aggressive and violent video games.

Being a soldier suggest unity and togetherness,something that he feels he is lacking here in the group by the cavalier responses he is getting.

This is a good chat site,where nobody would ever steer you in the wrong direction Gabe.

I've said it before

A healthy mind needs a healthy environment to grow.

I'm not the healthiest but I'm not a bat crazy person like people make me out to be.